Back in the fall, I read a cute post that shared a few relationship questions answered by both the husband and wife. It was a “he said, she said” type questionnaire as it related to their marriage!
I “interviewed” the hubs about it way back then, but figured I would post it
on Valentine’s this month, cause after all, it’s like the month of loooooove, right!? (Cue the flying pink puffy hearts. <3) Clearly, I missed Valentine’s day, but since its still February, I am going to call this a win and post it for ya today!!
The questions were pulled from my friends blog post and you can see my answers (ME) and the hubs answers (CT3) below! Also, I would just like to note that the hubs and I need some pics together. Yall, its bad! I tried to go pull pictures for this post and either one of us is not in it or there aren’t any of just the two of us!! Anyway, I snagged a few favorite (old) wedding photos of us to share with you instead, so yay for those!
My first lesson to you young marrieds is take pictures together – So, til I can rectify the current fact that we have no recent, please accept my (old) but favorite wedding pictures of us – and a few family ones!
How long did you date before you got married?
CT3 – 1 year
ME – Are you sure?
CT3 – Not sure. Yes, I am. 1 year.
Me – Got engaged at a year, married 7.5 months after that.
When did you realize that you wanted to marry the other person?
CT3 – When I met you for the second time.
(We worked at the JH Ranch together and that was the first time we met…the second time, we went to a mutual friends wedding with a group of friends together and that day he knew. He even told me what I was wearing that day! Nike running shorts and a high school soccer t-shirt! BONUS POINTS for the hubs!)
ME – Not sure…I think either when we went on a road trip to Memphis together or when we fought one night (about something ridiculous) and I woke up and thought that there is no one else in the world I would rather fight with and know that at the end of the day and after the fight they still loved me. That was my turning point.
How did you realize?
CT3 – You had on pink Nike shorts and you walked in front of my truck.
Me – Huh?
Me – Whatever, I just knew it made sense to be with you rather than without!
What do you remember from our first trip together?
CT3 – At the wedding I remember you got nervous and weird and double stacked your plates in the food line. I also wanted to dance with you, but we never had the chance.
Me – That you paid for everyone’s (three girls!) Waffle House dinner at 4 am. Total gentleman. Also, that you lived like 20 minutes from my parents but chose to stay in the basement that night and then I woke up early to you TALKING TO MY PARENTS in the kitchen. I freaked. I didn’t know you well, sure as heck didn’t need you downstairs chatting it up. So I intervened and we went to Starbucks. It was love from the start.
What was your favorite part about your wedding?
CT3 – The afterparty….at our hotel.
Me – Hardeeharhar. Something real.
CT3 – Fine. How much I enjoyed the wedding. Like I enjoyed the entire day.
Me – When you giggled randomly in our wedding ceremony, when our two friends (who were with us the day we re-connected sang worship songs in our wedding, and when we smashed cake in each others faces. Anyone who knows me knew this was coming.
How did it go meeting the other person’s family for the first time?
CT3 – Good. I talked to your parents for a long time before I talked to you. We got it so late and I heard people talking, so I got up thinking it was yall. It was your parents, so I chilled with them.
Me – I don’t remember! I remember Gammie telling you that, “you better not lose this one” and I remember I gave your mom flowers that she was allergic to. She kept the pot that they came in and still has that!
What three words describe marriage (so far) for you:
CT3 – Adventurous, challenging and rewarding.
Me – Fun, fulfilling and …..I dunno.
CT3 – You have to think of one more.
Me – I will later…(no I won’t. Its my blog! Shhhhh.)
Whats your favorite thing about being married?
CT3 – Completing dumb surveys late at night to spend time with my wife.
Me – Having a partner in crime to do life with. I know I always have someone on my team.
What was the hardest thing to get used to about marriage?
CT3 – Sharing EVERYTHING!!!
Me – One of your friends said its like taking 20 some odd years of two peoples family upbringings, life experiences and crashing them into one. That was challenging. We operate differently, think differently and make decisions at different paces. Finding what works for us without thinking the other is weird, crazy, wrong, etc was (is?) challenging.
How do you resolve disagreements?
CT3 – She makes me talk.
Me – Yep. Its like 4 am and I’ll be yapping at him that we have to talk and work this out!!! He looooves that.
What’s been the biggest surprise about marriage?
CT3- Biggest surprise? I dunno. It’s a lot more challenging and a lot more rewarding than I ever thought it would be.
Me – I guess I just figured it was always utopia. Then life hits and you have to work stuff out. Duh. Its not always like the movies, but at the end of the day, looking back and knowing that you have loved the one you were called to be with well is what its about.
What are your marriage goals?
CT3 – These questions are too deep. Give me something lighter! To live intentionally?
Me – Thats good! I feel like we have kind of talked about this before. For our family, to be intentional in following Jesus in all we do. Can’t go wrong following Him.
What advice do you have to anyone just getting married?
CT3 – Have patience and grace in tough situations.
Me – Make them talk. People say communication is key, but every time we communicate effectively or work something out or agree together on a decision, we set a foundation. It forces us to work together, allows us to understand the other and ultimately we are a better team. We don’t sweep things under the rug or leg stuff fester. We share, forgive, pray and forget and move on.
Also, if you are NOT yet married, splurge on a good photographer. We LOVED ours and I love that to this day, I still go gaga over our pictures! Well worth every penny.
So there ya go! A little insider peek into our relationship history and marriage! We are coming up on our eighth anniversary and I cant wait to do another 800 years with you!
If anyone else wants to do this fun little he said, she said marriage quiz, snag the questions and post away! Let me know you’ve done it so I can be sure to check out your post!